Be a Leader in Forgiving Others
A while back I was talking to a friend after getting my haircut about teaching kids to Forgive. As I grow older I remember more and more about all the good lessons my dad taught me and I didn’t always want to listen to him at the time but now it does make sense. My dad was a leader in forgiving others, I don’t remember him ever holding a grudge. When ever I got made at a friend he always encouraged me to work it out. How do you show others the lesson of forgiving others?
Divorce, Break-up or Not
I know people have so many reasons to get a Divorce or to Break-up with someone they are dating. I have heard of excuses from not attracted to anymore, works too much, golfs too much, drinks too much and a serious on had an affair on me. So you may have a reason you feel you won’t stay with someone but I still have a belief that any problem can be worked out if two people will.
Other People telling us what to do
It seems like everyone has a opinion on everything. Seems like a lot of people are more concerned about other people relationships than their own. Some people let friends, neighbors, relatives and kids even make the decision on if they should stay married or dating. I know some people have a strong feeling on this. But how can anyone else truly know what is best than the two people in the relationship. Especially kids who have not been through life experiences like you have, how could they be a expert. What are you teaching your kids?
Teaching your Kids
This is a touchy topic because anyone who has kids may feel like they know best. I have no crystal ball and I know no one can know what is right or wrong. But I still feel that we all should forgive others like God forgives us everyday for the things we do. I don’t remember my dad ever holding a grudge against anyone. My Mom and Dad was married for 57 years until my dad passed away. They both forgave each other for things all the time. Is that the answer to staying married or in a relationship? I think it is a key to any relationship and to the happiness of life. I feel it is a great lesson to show our kids by forgiving others, not holding grudges and trying to work on making a relationship work. Though it takes two people and if the other person doesn’t want to then there is nothing you can do about that.
First Step in Restoring a Relationship – Matthew 5:32
Jesus said that divorce is not permissible except for unfaithfulness. This does not mean that divorce should automatically occur when a spouse commits adultery,. The world translated “unfaithful” implies a sexually immoral life-style, not a confessed and repented act of adultery., Those who discover that their partner has been unfaithful should first make every effort to forgive reconcile, and restore their relationship. We are always to look for reasons to restore the marriage relationship rather then for excuses to leave it. Source: NLT Bible
If the bible is for working out a relationship even after an affair than why end a relationship for any other reason. why not communicate and talk it out and see if it can be worked through. I have heard of people who broke up over words said in the heat of a disagreement. They are just words I say and you can forgive others for words said. I have had co-workers and friends say hurtful words but were able to talk to them the next day and not bring up it again in the future. If you have kids they will face hurtful words through out their lives, how will you teach them to forgive others for that or other things. I saw people call my dad bad names during a bowling tournament that he was in charge of and then I saw my dad talking to them the next day like they were best friends. He never brought up the words, any grudges or not liking someone. Can you say that about yourself? Do you complain about others to friends, relatives or your kids?
What are your ideas
What are your ideas? What stories of how couples were able to forgive each other and move on. How were couples able to not bring up the past hurt again.
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